Jean Haner’s Blog


Align with the season…

Look out the window – Nature’s trying to tell you something.

It’s more than the message that autumn is the time to prepare your garden for the winter, to bring out the sweaters from storage, or to change your diet to hearty warming stews.

You knew all that already.

There’s another way you’re meant to align your life with the season.

It’s also time to synchronize with autumn emotionally, using nature as your guide.


As you watch the leaves fall, think of all the energy in the trees that it took to make them, and the qi from the soil, the sun, the wind and the rain.

This can help you reflect on what’s happened this year that you’ve put energy into, as well as all your past history that has brought you to this place in your life.

As the leaves lie on the ground, they slowly break down and enrich the soil, but for a while they are yucky and slimy before they disappear into the ground.


So in this phase, you may also go through some yucky stuff – recalling any difficult experiences during the past year – with some uncomfortable feelings as a result of those experiences.

If you’re willing to process those memories and feelings, they break down just like the leaves do, to enrich you.

If you do this work, you come to some realizations about how you’ve grown, how you’re being transformed into an even better version of yourself.

As you move into this later stage of autumn, are there any difficult places within you, painful memories, or unwelcome feelings that you can turn your attention to, so that they can break down, and disintegrate?

This is not something you do in an hour or two – It happens over time, just like in nature.


As you approach winter, you can tap into the energy it brings, which is trusting the process.

You know that as the plants break down through the fall and winter, this replenishes the soil, to bring vitality to the new life sprouting in the spring.

So you can trust that allowing your feelings and working through them over time is exactly what will free you and enrich you for the most powerful new growth next spring.

This guidance comes from Chinese medicine, an ancient science based on thousands of years of study of the patterns of nature.

Human beings are part of nature too! If we align with these patterns, then our own personal seasons can unfold with ease.

Are You a Bamboo Personality Type?

If you’re a coach or healer or want to help people in any way, it can be so valuable to learn how to “read” them.

We all know that Chinese medicine can read (diagnose) your health – but what most people don’t know is that it also developed a way to read your spirit.

There are hidden meanings in the patterns in your face and birth date that can help you understand who you really are inside.

And you can learn to read these in other people as well, so you can work with them in the most authentic and heart-based way.

In your birth date, there are messages in the year you were born, and in the month you were born, and even more in the day you were born.

All these messages weave together to show you why you are the way you are, where you tend to go wrong, and how you can change to create a life that’s a fit for you.

To get the complete picture of who someone is, we read the patterns in both their birth date and their face, but even just knowing JUST the birth year can reveal so much.

Were you born in one of these years?
So let’s look at some things we can read in the birth year alone.

For example, were you born in 1996, 1987, 1978, 1969, 1960, 1951 or 1942 or do you know someone who was? Read this description and see if you can relate: Continue reading

Do You Have a Trust Fund?

Many years ago, I had a friend who loved to take workshops. He didn’t do so indiscriminately but he always seemed to manage to go to the ones that were really special, no matter the cost.

One day, after hearing about his latest exploration into consciousness, I said, “I heard the tuition for that one was really expensive.”

He said, “Yes, it cost a lot of money but I just tapped into my trust fund.”

Without thinking, I blurted out, “Wow, must be nice. I wish I had a trust fund!”

And his reply was: “Yes, I trust, and the funds come.”

Oh. Wow.

What a concept.

A few months later, Continue reading

Maybe I’m Just Not Meant to…

When a client starts out a session with me, they first tell me about what they’ve been struggling with so long.

And then, one of the most frequent comments they make is:

“Maybe I’m just not meant to –

be in a relationship

change careers

lose this weight

start my own business

have a baby

(fill in the blank)…”

But that’s never true. What you yearn for in your heart of hearts is absolutely meant to be.

For each of us, there are ways we block our own progress without even realizing it. Continue reading

No Attack Dogs Required

A few years ago, right before his book, “Blink” came out, I had the joy of sitting across from Malcolm Gladwell at dinner and listening to him tell stories about his research for the book.

One thing he’d done was interview people who train professional bodyguards.

He said as part of the training, each person is shown a line drawn on the ground and told, “Walk along this line, and no matter what happens, stay on the line.”

So, the trainee starts to walk along the line, and out of nowhere, a snarling attack dog charges right at him. Of course, he shrieks and runs off the line.  Continue reading

Three Stories: Are You an Energy Sponge or Do You Leak Energy?

I did a reading for a young woman named Kimberly a while back, who said, “I’m just a total energy sponge!”

She had figured out she soaked in other people’s energy after she had to start sharing an office with another woman. Although she got on with her well enough, Kimberly noticed that suddenly she was dragging home at the end of every day, completely exhausted.

One day it dawned on her that the genesis of this exhaustion could be traced to the very first day this woman moved into her office. Continue reading

Are You Sensitive to the Energy of People and Places?

Alex was already very spiritual even by age 16. He’d recently started waking up an hour earlier each day so he could meditate and do yoga in his room before breakfast.

But he felt something was really wrong with him.

Every morning, when he finished his hour of meditation and yoga, he felt wonderful – clear, in balance, and full of joy.

He’d then head out his bedroom door and down a long hallway, through the house to the kitchen, where his mother had breakfast waiting.

But by the time he sat down at the kitchen table, all the joy was melting away. He started to feel heavy and tired.

And so upset with himself! What was wrong with him that he couldn’t hold that great energy for more than 5 minutes?  Continue reading

Worried About Being on the Other Side of 40?

Our culture is so silly, trying to convince us that the only period of our lives that we’re valued is when we’re young and wrinkle-free.

As you reach 40, it’s like you’re supposed to do everything you can to put the brakes on!

You invest in “anti-aging” products that you’ll have to use for the rest of your life, and you can feel pressured to get cosmetic procedures, all in a desperate attempt to still be accepted by others.

Even with the occasional news reports trumpeting “60 is the new 40!” (so does that mean 40 is the new 20?), we’re still immersed in the belief that being on the other side of 40 means it’s all downhill from there!

The Plan and Purpose for Your 40s

But the principles of Chinese face reading give us a different view. Continue reading

What Are You NOT Seeing?

It’s like we all walk through life with blinders on.

Each of us carries a type of unconscious mindset that limits our view.

It’s a belief pattern makes us feel that the right thing to do is “X” when in fact that’s not always true!

It’s just how we’re wired – We’ll just naturally click into this way of thinking without even realizing it because it’s such a part of who we are.

On one hand, this is good – it’s the key to our success in life; it represents our strengths.

But there’s a Downside… Continue reading

So! – How’s 2015 Going for You So Far?

Have there been any surprises so far this year? Things going the way you’d planned?

Anything confusing you about what’s happened in your life since the year began?

Or are you having any unexpected feelings emerge as you get further into the year?

In fact, each year has a theme to it, and that theme will run through what happens in your external world, as well as what starts to churn in your inner world.

It’s part of a rhythm of yearly influences that gets set up the moment you’re born.

My phone tends to ring off the hook at this time of year, as people get fully into the influence of the year and start to think, “Wha???” as they go through some version of:

“Wow! My life just turned magic – How can I make it last?”

“What the hell is happening?”

“This is NOT what I ordered.”

In fact, you can think what’s happening is “bad” when in fact, once you discover what the theme of the year is, you can see that the messages and experiences it’s bringing to you are actually going to create incredibly positive results.

And once you understand the energy of the year for you, you can align with it, so you’re going with the flow rather than trying to swim against the current.

Some years are designed to bring you love with ease. Others are supportive of launching your new business, or making a major life change. And some years are meant to help you grow deep roots where you are right now.

So if you know the unique plan and purpose for 2015, you can love your experience and make it your best year ever.

Here’s a way to get some clues about the theme for your year: Continue reading