Have there been any surprises so far this year? Things going the way you’d planned?
Anything confusing you about what’s happened in your life since the year began?
Or are you having any unexpected feelings emerge as you get further into the year?
In fact, each year has a theme to it, and that theme will run through what happens in your external world, as well as what starts to churn in your inner world.
It’s part of a rhythm of yearly influences that gets set up the moment you’re born.
My phone tends to ring off the hook at this time of year, as people get fully into the influence of the year and start to think, “Wha???” as they go through some version of:
“Wow! My life just turned magic – How can I make it last?”
“What the hell is happening?”
“This is NOT what I ordered.”
In fact, you can think what’s happening is “bad” when in fact, once you discover what the theme of the year is, you can see that the messages and experiences it’s bringing to you are actually going to create incredibly positive results.
And once you understand the energy of the year for you, you can align with it, so you’re going with the flow rather than trying to swim against the current.
Some years are designed to bring you love with ease. Others are supportive of launching your new business, or making a major life change. And some years are meant to help you grow deep roots where you are right now.
So if you know the unique plan and purpose for 2015, you can love your experience and make it your best year ever.
Here’s a way to get some clues about the theme for your year: Continue reading
Most of my posts on this blog are about Chinese face reading.
But there are also patterns in your birth date that reveal your personality. It’s what my book Your Hidden Symmetry is all about.
In reading your birth date, we get messages from the year you were born – plus messages from the month you were born – plus messages from the day you were born.
All this together gives you a deeply-layered understanding of your true nature, who you are in your heart of hearts.
Of course it’s not possible to go into that level of detail here, but I can still offer you some insights that may be meaningful for you!
So today, let’s look at some things we can read from JUST some birth years. Continue reading
If you’re following the news about NBC anchor Brian Williams “misremembering” whether he had been on a helicopter that had been shot down, it’s interesting to consider what the patterns in his face and birth date can reveal.
Was he intentionally lying or did he genuinely not recall events accurately?
Williams’ face has a long rectangular shape and his body type is long and lean as well – This shows what’s called a “Bamboo” personality type.
In nature, the bamboo tree’s secret to success is its flexibility – It bends in the breeze and so doesn’t get knocked down in a storm. When someone has a bamboo personality, they have an adaptable nature, and come across as easygoing and flexible.
But the downside of a bamboo personality is that it can make them evasive in communications. Or they can even slant the truth, though not being intentionally dishonest. At the extreme, they can be mercenary in their approach, bending to take advantage of any situation that will serve them best.
The patterns in his birth date add more insights – They show he has a great sense of humor and can spin a good story. But this is also a sign of an ambitious man with a drive to be the center of attention. This can mean that he has a tendency to make everything all about him – even events that happen to someone else.
There’s also a strong indication of a good imagination – so good in fact that it could incline him to create fantasies that he begins to believe as true. In other words, he may change the facts in his own mind without any intention of being untruthful.
The fact that he wasn’t in the helicopter that got shot down but in the one behind it could easily have morphed in his mind, into his own personal version of reality, of the drama that happened to him.
What these patterns seem to show is that he may have revised history in his own mind, but that he truly believed his altered memories, and he wasn’t intentionally lying.
(The meanings of the patterns in our faces and birth dates come from an ancient branch of Chinese medicine, which developed a very sophisticated science of reading not only the physical body but the personality as well.)
There’s a hidden trail near my house in San Diego, that feels very remote and peaceful even though it’s right in the middle of town.
It’s a narrow path, with a high bluff on one side and a steep canyon on the other. Once you’re on it, all you can hear is the crunch of your feet on the ground.
And once you’re on it, you either complete the walk or you turn around and go back out. It’s about 3 miles from beginning to end and there are no exits along the way.
“Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
These faces are still all loveable, but in many, you can see the results of a lifetime of being locked into repeating patterns of thought and feeling…
When someone asks me where I live, I often say, “On an airplane.” And it’s only half-jokingly – I spend a lot of time in the air and in airports, on my way to teach a workshop or do consultations.
But here’s the thing – when you know face reading, the airport is a fascinating place to be! Every face tells a story about who that person really is inside, what their life has been like, and what your experience with them will be.
When I teach professional trainings for people to coach and consult using this work, I always do in-depth demonstrations of readings while the students observe.
It’s always everyone’s favorite part of the workshop because they get to watch, live and in person, the process of someone discovering for the very first time how deeply they can be recognized and understood. It’s often quite a holy moment.
They say opposites attract, but there’s a new dating website that claims to be able to find you true love by matching you with someone who has a face that looks like yours. The theory is that the more you look like someone, the greater the chances of success for your relationship with them. They claim that studies on celebrities’ faces show that the ones who have happy marriages tend to look alike. If you consider this within the context of Chinese face reading, which teaches that every feature on your face has specific meanings and messages, you might think this could make sense. If your date’s features are similar to yours, then wouldn’t it be true that you’d be very similar in personality and therefore compatible?
Well, first, we all know human beings are not that simple! We each have a gloriously intricate pattern of temperament, beliefs, talents and foibles! But also, it seems a bit silly to assume that a successful relationship can only happen with someone who’s as much like us as possible. So this got me to thinking about what relationships might be like if people shared certain similar features….
Ears that stick out: If you have two people with ears that stick out from the sides of their heads, this means you have two very willful and independent personalities! So here you have two non-conformists, who may share some similar behaviors, values and perceptions about the outside world, but at home together, this could at times turn into a nightmare of each resisting what the other wants them to do!
Arched eyebrows: Brows that look like upside-down V’s indicate that person will be quick to react. They can be spontaneous, which is lovely, but they also may be too impulsive at times. When upset, they’re often emotionally reactive – if you say something to upset them, they can immediately bristle or challenge you. At the extreme, they can be very excitable emotionally, and that can make for fireworks in a relationship, in good ways but also bad!
Nose bump: A nose that has a boney bump on the bridge (usually about 1/4 to 1/3 from the top of the nose) signifies the potential to be quite controlling. It usually derives from a very high level of personal sensitivity, which makes this person more aware of little details than other people, and more bothered if something is “off.”
It can be a real challenge to move through life seeing all the little mistakes others have made and missed. So the result often is this person feels a need to make sure the mistakes don’t happen, out of a desire to prevent stress to their own system! This can mean they always seem to be butting in to tell you how to do something, or you get the feeling they never trust you to do anything right. Put two people with nose bumps together in relationship and you can have two controllers driving each other crazy!
Visible nostrils: One way the more superstitious form of Chinese face reading refers to the nose is as “the moneybox.” They say that the nostrils show how easily a person spends money. If you ever look at someone straight on at eye level (not looking up at them or down at them) and you can see directly into their nostrils, this means they spend money easily. Though this may sound a bit farfetched, I do find this tends to be true! So if you have two people in relationship who both have visible nostrils, there’s a better chance they’ll love to spend and will end up with money problems, certainly not the most optimistic trend if you’re hoping for a successful partnering.
Round face: People with round faces often excel in really enjoying all the pleasures of life here on earth. They love the company of family and friends, wonderful meals together, a cozy and comfy home, and relaxing on a big cushy couch with their feet up. They’re not much inclined toward exercise, and so if you put two of these people together, you’ll find they tend to influence each other – to just cuddle together in front of the TV, snacks in hand, and over time, put on weight. They may actually have a good relationship in certain ways because they can get in the same rut together, but worst case, can develop health problems due to poor diet choices and lack of exercise.
It’s definitely important to understand what messages your date’s face reveals, but maybe you should beware if they look too much like you!
I’ve just returned from spending Christmas with my 93 year old mother and my heart is still full. My mother’s always been an amazing woman. When she was 89, I took her to one of the foremost acupuncturists in the world, and she was proclaimed to be a very rare case– a woman of that age whose spirit was still completely bright and vital.
Things have changed over the past year, and her spirit has dimmed considerably. She’s no longer able to live on her own, and is not often even fully conscious. But when she looks at me, there’s such light in her eyes, and such pure love, that I just feel totally cherished by her.
On my flight home, I was reading an interview with Oprah, where she talked about author Toni Morrison saying that what every child wants to know is, ‘Do your eyes light up when I enter the room?’ This is the gift my mother still gives me and I’m so very grateful.
When I was writing The Wisdom of Your Child’s Face, I did a lot of research into the latest discoveries in our Western understanding of child development. I was surprised to learn that the most important thing a child needs from his or her parents is not heaps of praise, and not even frequent “I love you’s,” though of course those things are essential.
But in fact, the single most powerful predictor of a child’s happiness and success in life is how much they feel recognized and understood by their parents. To me, this is what’s happening when a parent’s eyes light up at the sight of their child.
And I don’t think that need ends with childhood. I think the people who we feel most connected with and loved by are the ones who recognize us for who we really are, without layers of judgment, and without conditional love, which has strings attached.
This isn’t always easy to achieve. We all have different personalities, different patterns of perception and behavior, and these can really affect our ability to feel that pure love for and acceptance of another person. We misunderstand why someone in our lives is behaving as they are, or has the needs that they do. And over the years, these tiny misperceptions can build on themselves, until that light in the eyes goes out.
My mother and I are not at all alike; in fact we’ve always been very different from each other. Face reading has helped me so much in understanding her as an adult, but also in looking back throughout my childhood to give me insights about why she was the kind of parent that she was, and why I had the experiences I did because of this. It’s what has allowed me to stay as clear and free of unresolved issues as possible with her, and to just be fully present with her, with that beautiful light in her eyes, and the same reflected back in mine.